EVERYBODY KNOWS
You can’t be all things to all people.
You can’t do all things at once.
You can’t do all things equally well.
You can’t do all things better than everyone else.
Your humanity is showing just like everyone else’s.
SO
You have to find out who you are, and be that.
You have to decide what comes first, and do that.
You have to discover your strengths, and use them.
You have to learn not to compete with others,
Because no one else is in the contest of *being you*.
THEN
You will have learned to accept your own uniqueness.
You will have learned to set priorities and make decisions.
You will have learned to live with your limitations.
You will have learned to give yourself the respect that is due.
And you’ll be a most vital mortal.
DARE TO DREAM
That you are a wonderful, unique person.
That you are a once-in-all-history event.
That it’s more than a right, it’s your duty, to be who you are.
That life is not a problem to solve, but a gift to cherish.
And you’ll be able to stay one up on what used to get you down.
Posts Tagged ‘strength’
Steps To Happiness
December 27th, 2009
Today’s Changing Mindset
December 18th, 2009It is important to know about interpersonal relationships. What keeps and what really disturbs interpersonal relationships? The relationship gets disturbed when disagreement begins.
Just look at yourself. Have you always agreed with yourself? You had some idea yesterday; today you may have a different idea. Five years back you had other ideas that do not necessarily agree with the ideas that you have today. So when you have disagreement with yourself, why should it not happen with someone else?
The ‘someone’ you have a disagreement with is just a photocopy of your old or the new self. So you need to take a look at your own thought patterns and emotional patterns, there is a rhythm in them. And there is a rhythm in the consciousness. We need to find a harmony between all these rhythms within us and that’s what is called spirituality.
Spirituality is not just fantasising; it’s observing your own existence. Have we thoroughly known our body? Experiencing your own body, your breath, your mind, your emotion and the source of your life is meditation. Meditation is experiencing the life force and being conscious of it; and it is done effortlessly.
The process of reversing the tendency of the mind from clinging on to the negative and moving to something positive is called yoga. Yoga makes you like a baby again. It not only revives your nature, it also keeps your heart and mind young and bright. Yoga improves perception, observation and expression.
For maintaining interpersonal relationships, you have to first have a relationship with yourself. Your relationship with yourself is called integrity. If you have no relationship with yourself, that’s called lack of integrity. Secondly, being informal keeps your interpersonal relationship strong, for it gives space for mistakes to happen. You cannot expect perfection in any relationship or situation.
Today one of the biggest problems with the world is emotional instability. When we create an informal outlook and cordial environment around us, we grease the friction and become the master of our environment and not feel helpless about what is happening around us.
Life is very complex. There is no set formula. When you think that you are very honest, that you are righteous, you become a little stiff inside without even knowing it. You point your finger towards others and become intolerant. When you recognise that there are flaws in you, you are then able to accommodate the flaws in other persons.
That’s why it is said, ‘‘do a good deed and forget about it’’. It is not only your vices or bad qualities that will harm you. Even your good qualities can make you stiff, rude and angry. That is why you should surrender both bad and good qualities. Relax and let go.
Meditation is the only way you can transcend the negative thoughts and then positive thoughts will come spontaneously and automatically. Stress and tension cause negative attitude. Suppose you don’t sleep for two days small things can start to irritate. And if you have rested well, the situation will be different.
Some people always blame themselves for something that goes wrong in a close acquaintance. Leave this ‘always’ — like ‘‘I want to be always happy’’. Take life as it comes. Sometimes you are upset or angry; it is ok to be upset or angry. Life does not stop for anything; it moves. Just move with the flow.
Family
December 18th, 2009I ran into a stranger as he passed by, “Oh excuse me please” was my reply. He said, “Please excuse me too; I wasn’t watching for you.”
We were very polite, this stranger and I.
We went on our way and we said goodbye.
But at home a different story is told, How we treat our loved ones, young and old.
Later that day, cooking the evening meal, My son stood beside me very still.
When I turned, I nearly knocked him down. “Move out of the way,” I said with a frown.
He walked away, his little heart broken. I didn’t realize how harshly I’d spoken.
While I lay awake in bed, God’s still small voice came to me and said,
“While dealing with a stranger, common courtesy you use, but the family you love, you seem to abuse.
Go and look on the kitchen floor, You’ll find some flowers there by the door.
Those are the flowers he brought for you. He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.
By this time, I felt very small, And now my tears began to fall.
I quietly went and knelt by his bed; “Wake up, little one, wake up,” I said.
“Are these the flowers you picked for me?” He smiled, “I found ‘em, out by the tree.
I picked ‘em because they’re pretty like you. I knew you’d like ‘em, especially the blue.”
I said, “Son, I love you too, and I do like the flowers, especially the blue.”
Do you know what the word FAMILY means?
FAMILY = (F)ATHER (A)ND (M)OTHER (I) (L)OVE (Y)OU
Good Morning
December 18th, 2009When people talk behind your back, what does it mean??
Simple! It means that you are two steps ahead of them!!
So, Keep moving ahead in Life!!
Have a great day….Everyday!
Capitalize on Your Team’s Strengths
October 31st, 2009Managers have been schooled to assess the performance of their employees based on identifying weaknesses, and seeing the gap between what’s expected and what’s actually performed. We may be looking at a glass half empty. Marcus Buckingham and Donald Clifton, authors of the book, Now Discover Your Strengths, suggest that we build our lives around strengths and show us ways to minimize the impact of our weaknesses. The authors define strengths as “consistent near-perfect performance in an activity.” As an important corollary to this definition, they add “ability is only a strength if you can fathom yourself doing it repeatedly, happily and successfully.” They go on to thoroughly describe the hallmarks of the 34 strengths identified by the Gallup Organization and offer these tips to build our strengths:
Tip 1: Understand how to distinguish your natural talents from the skills you can learn. It’s true that you can improve at activities for which you are not naturally gifted. The question is whether you can reach consistent near-perfect performance, repeatedly. Talent is a naturally recurring pattern of thought, feeling or behavior. Knowledge consists of facts and lessons learned. Skills are the steps of an activity. With skills and knowledge, you can perfect and innate talent. On the other hand, you can acquire skills and knowledge to a point–to adequately get by–but you’ll never be able to attain the consistent near-perfect performance that comes with innate talent.
Tip 2: Have a system to identify your dominant talents. Try an activity to see how quickly you pick it up, skip the steps in the learning and add twists and things you haven’t been taught yet, and see whether you get so absorbed in the activity that you lose track of time.
Tip 3: Learn a common language to describe your talents and the talents of others. Our language isn’t up the challenge, of focusing on strengths in contrast to our language of focusing on weaknesses and criticism. While a person with people skills has a strength for relating well to people, he or she may not have the particular strength to success in a specific area. For example, one person with people skills might excel at building trust, while another person with people skills might be brilliant at networking. Most organizations are merely a reflection of individuals. Most organizations are put together in a dark room. Each piece is clumsily squeezed into place, and then the edges are ground down so they feel well positioned. But, pull up the shades, we need to let a little light into the room and we see the truth. The Gallup Organization research shows that: 8 out of 10 pieces in the organization are in the wrong place; 8 out of 10 employees feel they are in the wrong job 8 out of 10 employees never have a chance to reveal the best of themselves. It doesn’t have to be this way, A knowledge economy in an increasingly competitive global economy means that the right employees are becoming more precious with each passing year. Those of us who lead organizations must become more skilled when it comes to finding and using the right talent.
