Posts Tagged ‘love’

How to cure just about anything

February 1st, 2010

Medical Science is wonderful at certain
issues, like trauma. If you are in an
accident, medical doctors are saviors and magicians.

However, for the majority of illnesses,
medical doctors do a mediocre job fixing symptoms but a terrible job at fixing the cause — and they also unfortunately do a great job at creating new problems (which they call side-effects).

This email presents one way to look at almost all illness.

When you (or, at least, when your cavemen
ancestors) were confronted with a
life-or-death issue like an attack by a
fierce carnivore, you needed to immediately activate your fight-or-flight mechanism in order to save your life.

That was a good thing and it worked.

It worked to save your caveman’s life.

It had negative side-effects but these were not as significant as the fact that you survived the incident.

What is the fight-or-flight mechanism? It is the release of degenerative hormones:
Cortisol and Adrenaline.

They spur you into action. They save your life. They put you in top performance. But, alas, they also create stress. These two hormones and the related stress they cause are believed to be the leading cause of the most serious diseases like cancer, shingles, heart ailments and many others.

If the release of these hormones was so good for your cavemen ancestors, then why is it not good for you now?

The reason is that the issues which cause you worry and stress today are no longer life-threatening. They may include someone angry at you, a very long red light, a nasty email, etc.

Though there is no danger involved in these incidents, the body still perceives these incidents as danger and triggers the fight-or-flight mechanisms. The unused hormones in your system are the cause of the degeneration.

These unused and mostly unneeded hormones accumulate in your system and are the beginnings of the degenerative diseases you fear.

The cure of the most common AND the most dreaded diseases can be traced back to curing the release of, and the consequential accumulation of, the Cortisol and Adrenaline hormones in your body (at least in many, if not most, cases).

And, how is that done? The ultimate answer
is: relax.

There are a variety of ways to do that…

… being calm

… playing contemplative music

… resting during the day

… getting sufficient sleep

… enjoying the occasional massage

… meditating or praying

… having peaceful retreats in your day

… smiling

… taking deep breaths when you feel stress

… soaking in hot baths and

… other such restful practices.

So how do you cure just about anything that’s making you sick?

The answer may be as simple as…

Chill out.

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Beautiful Thoughts

December 28th, 2009

Anger is a condition in which the tongue works faster than the mind.

You can’t change the past, But you can ruin the present by worrying over the future.

Love…and you shall be loved.

God always gives His best to those Who leave the choice with Him.

All people smile in the same language.

Everyone needs to be loved…Especially when they do not deserve it.

The real measure of a man’s wealth is what he has invested in eternity.

Laughter is God’s sunshine.

Everyone has beauty…..But not everyone sees it.

It’s important for parents to live………..The same things they teach.

Thank God for what you have, TRUST GOD for what you need.

If you fill your heart with regrets of yesterday and the worries of tomorrow, You have no today to be thankful for.
Man looks at outward appearance; But the Lord looks within.

The choice you make today…Will usually affect tomorrow.

Take time to laugh, for it is the music of the soul.

Patience is the ability to idle your motor when you feel like stripping your gears.

Love is strengthened by working through conflicts together.

Harsh words break no bones but they do break hearts.

To get out of a difficulty, one usually must go through it.

We take for granted the things that we should be giving thanks for.

Love is the only thing that can be pided without being diminished.

Happiness is enhanced by others but does not depend upon others.

For every minute you are angry with someone,You lose 60 seconds of happiness that you can never get back.

Do what you can, for who you can, With what you have, and where you are.

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Parents are Precious

December 28th, 2009

This was narrated at a Seminar recently on Human Relations :

Venkatesh Balasubramaniam (who works for IIT) describes how his gesture of booking an air ticket for his father, his maiden flight, brought forth a rush of emotions and made him (Venkatesh) realize that how much we all take for granted when it comes to our parents.

My parents left for our native place on Thursday and we went to the airport to see them off. In fact, my father had never travelled by air before, so I just took this opportunity to make him experience the same. In spite of being asked to book tickets by train, I got them tickets on Jet Airways. The moment I handed over the tickets to him, he was surprised to see that I had booked them by air. The excitement was very apparent on his face, waiting for the time of
travel. Just like a school boy, he was preparing himself on that day and we all went to the airport, right from using the trolley for his luggage, the baggage check-in and asking for a window seat and waiting restlessly for the security check-in to happen. He was thoroughly enjoying himself and I, too, was overcome with joy watching him experience all these things.

As they were about to go in for the security check-in, he walked up to me with tears in his eyes and thanked me. He became very emotional and it was not as if I had done something great but the fact that this meant a great deal to him. When he said thanks, I told him there was no need to thank me. But later, thinking about the entire incident, I looked back at my life. As a child, how many dreams our parents have made come true. Without understanding the financial situation, we ask for cricket bats, dresses, toys, outings, etc. Irrespective of their affordability, they have catered to all our needs. Did we ever think about the sacrifices they had to make to accommodate many of our wishes? Did we ever say thanks for all that they have done for us? Same way, today when it comes to our children, we always think that we should put them in a good school. Regardless of the amount of donation, we will ensure that we will have t give the child the best, theme parks, toys, etc. But we tend to forget that our parents have sacrificed a lot for our sake to see us happy, so it is our responsibility to ensure that their dreams are realized and what they failed to see when they were young. It is our responsibility to ensure that they experience all those and their life is complete.

Many times, when my parents had asked me some questions, I have actually answered back without patience. When my daughter asks me something, I have been very polite in answering. Now I realize how they would have felt at those moments. Let us realize that old age is a second childhood and just as we take care of our children, the same attention and same care needs to be given to our parents and elders.Quality time and politely answering them with out making them wait is important. Now I realise that I must look at their eyes and answer them pleasantly and not pretend to be reading papers and answer in mono syllables. Rather than my dad saying thank you to me, I would want to say sorry for making him wait so long for this small dream. I do realize how much he has sacrificed for my sake and I will do my best to give the best possible attention to all their wishes.

Just because they are old does not mean that they will have to give up everything and keep sacrificing for their grandchildren also. They have wishes, too.

Take care of your parents. THEY ARE PRECIOUS.

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Life’s little Instructions

December 28th, 2009

Try to adopt the maximum in your life from the points below. It will change your life.

1. Look people in the eye.

2. Sing in the shower.

3. Own a great stereo system.

4. If in a fight, hit first and hit hard.

5. Keep secrets.

6. Never give up on anybody. Miracles happen everyday.

7. Always accept an outstretched hand.

8. Be brave. Even if you’re not, pretend, no one can tell the difference.

9. Whistle.

10. Avoid sarcastic remarks.

11. Choose your life’s mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90% of all your happiness or misery.

12. Make it a habit to do nice things for people who will never find out.

13. Lend only those books you never care to see again.

14. Never deprive someone of hope; It might be all that they have.

15. When playing games with children let them win.

16. Be romantic.

17. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.

18. Loosen up, relax. Except for rare life-&-death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems.

19. Don’t allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It is there for your convenience not the caller’s.

20. Be a good loser.

21. Be a good winner.

22. Think twice before burdening a friend with a secret.

23. When someone hugs you, let them be the first to let go.

24. Be modest. A lot was accomplished before you were born.

25. Keep it simple. Beware of the person who has nothing to lose.

26. Don’t burn bridges. You’ll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river.

27. Live your life so that your epitaph could read, No regrets.

28. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you’ll regret the things you didn’t do more than the ones you did.

29. Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them.

30. Remember no one makes it alone. Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who helped you.

31. Take charge of your attitude. Don’t let someone else choose it for you.

32. Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital.

33. Begin each day with some of your favourite music.

34. Once in a while take the scenic route.

35. Send a lot of Valentine cards.

36. Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice.

37. Keep a note-pad and pencil on your bed-side table. Million-dollar ideas sometimes strike at three a.m.

38. Show respect for everyone who works for a living, regardless of how trivial their job.

39. Send your loved ones flowers. Think of a reason later.

40. Make somebody’s day by paying the toll for the person in the car behind you.

41. Become someone’s hero.

42. Marry only for love.

43. Count your blessings.

44. Compliment the host when you have a good meal in someone’s home.

45. Wave at children in a school bus.

46. Remember that 80% of the success in any job is your ability to deal with people.

47. Don’t expect life to be fair.

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Family

December 18th, 2009

I ran into a stranger as he passed by, “Oh excuse me please” was my reply. He said, “Please excuse me too; I wasn’t watching for you.”

We were very polite, this stranger and I.
We went on our way and we said goodbye.

But at home a different story is told, How we treat our loved ones, young and old.

Later that day, cooking the evening meal, My son stood beside me very still.

When I turned, I nearly knocked him down. “Move out of the way,” I said with a frown.

He walked away, his little heart broken. I didn’t realize how harshly I’d spoken.

While I lay awake in bed, God’s still small voice came to me and said,

“While dealing with a stranger, common courtesy you use, but the family you love, you seem to abuse.

Go and look on the kitchen floor, You’ll find some flowers there by the door.

Those are the flowers he brought for you. He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.

He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise, you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes.”

By this time, I felt very small, And now my tears began to fall.

I quietly went and knelt by his bed; “Wake up, little one, wake up,” I said.

“Are these the flowers you picked for me?” He smiled, “I found ‘em, out by the tree.

I picked ‘em because they’re pretty like you. I knew you’d like ‘em, especially the blue.”

I said, “Son, I’m very sorry for the way I acted today; I shouldn’t have yelled at you that way.” He said, “Oh, Mom, that’s okay. I love you anyway.”

I said, “Son, I love you too, and I do like the flowers, especially the blue.”

FAMILY
Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days. But the family we left behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives.

And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than into our own family, an unwise investment indeed, don’t you think? So what is behind the story?

Do you know what the word FAMILY means?
FAMILY = (F)ATHER (A)ND (M)OTHER (I) (L)OVE (Y)OU

Happy moments, praise God.
Difficult moments, seek God.
Quiet moments, worship God
Painful moments, trust God
Every moment, thank God
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Inspire Others and Gain Respect

November 1st, 2009

10 Vital Actions To Inspire Others And Gain Respect

1. Make a small difference in someone’s life every day. It can be simple as helping a total stranger or an act of appreciation. The personal benefit, however, is huge in terms of how you’ll feel when you go to bed at night. It really is a nice feeling to realize that you have made a positive difference in the life of another human being. Sometimes the people you help will know it was you who did it, and other times they will never know.
Sometimes your efforts are noticed and appreciated; other times they are not. None of this matters. All that matters is that you know and that you get the positive feelings that result.

2. Trust Yourself. If you don’t believe in yourself, why would anyone else? Have confidence in your abilities. We all have something we are good at. For as long as you put your heart to it, you have the ability to make important changes.

3. Keep your word. Your reputation can take you places or bar you from them. If you say you will do something, do it! Don’t commit to something you can’t follow though, as it will create hairline fractures in your trustworthiness.

4. Be a good communicator. Increasing your ability to communicate effectively is a critical element to inspire others. Learn to listen more and speak less! Pay close attention to both what you say and how you say it. Your body language and tone of voice will give you away!

5. Get better at giving feedback. Be generous with words of praise. Give credit where credit is due, including public praise for a job well done. If you have to criticize, do it gently and give suggestions for improvement.

6. Give people confidence to reach their full potential. Fear is one of the main elements that prevent us from doing our best. From time to time, we all need some encouragement and a “gentle push” to do our best.

7. Share from your own experience. You have certain experiences that are unique to you. Stories are a way of revealing who we are and how we think. Stories allow you to point out behaviors and values without sounding as if you’re bragging or giving a lecture.

8. Be vulnerable. No one is perfect; when mistakes occur, graciously accept the consequences.

9. Develop a sense of humor. Finding humor in things is one of life’s greatest pleasures. Most people are drawn to a person who can make them laugh; a person with a good sense of humor is a joy to be around.

10. Don’t forget your roots. You are what you are today because of your family, friends, schools, previous jobs, and places you’ve lived. If you leave it all behind, you lose touch with an integral part of you.

Who are the most inspiring people in your life? What distinguishes them from the rest of the crowd?

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Quotes

November 1st, 2009

“We never ask the meaning of life
When we are in love.”

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“When there are no unnecessary thoughts in your mind Everyday is a good day.”
Ummon
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Zen and the art of love

November 1st, 2009

We are meant to live a life of love. When we’re not in love, something’s the matter. However, no matter how successful some are in other aspects of their lives, they don’t feel it’s possible to have the same success in love. They tell themselves to “be realistic.” Being realistic about relationships” is considered natural as we “grow up” and give up the fantasies, foolishness and dreams of childhood. But nothing could be further from natural. Being in love is the most mature and realistic thing you can do. It energizes your life, fills you with positivity, creates generosity and makes every moment beautiful. The body heals the heart is happy. The real question is, why aren’t we in love all the time? How can we learn to fall in love with all of life? The world of Zen is filled with guidance and practice that permits us to open our hearts, clear our minds, become present, be who we are and be able to discover the wonderful secret of falling in love with all of life. As a great Zen Master says, “When there are no unnecessary thoughts in your mind Everyday is a good day.” Ummon Here are some directions from the world of Zen. The following exercises, (based upon the Zen And The Art Of Falling In Love, ) will show us how to turn our lives upside down, clear away weeds in our gardens and be ready to feel love wherever we are. As Zen practice reminds us – “the entry point is right where you are.”

1) THE ONE RIGHT BESIDES YOU Most of the time we are searching and searching for the right person. Zen suggests that we stop running around seeking and see what is right in front of our eyes. Look at a person who is close to you right now – anyone it happens to be. Notice the ways in which you push him away. Stop doing that. Allow the two of you to be together in whatever way you are. Let all of it be fine just as it is. Do the same thing tomorrow with someone else. We dismiss so many people who are in our worlds, while waiting for the “right one” to appear. The more we can be “right” with everyone, the more we can open up to what is being offered now, the fuller and more joyous our lives will be.

2) PLAYING AT LOVE So many complain that they are not loved. The reason for this can be quite simple. They are so busy playing roles and games that the partner never gets to know who they really are. Notice what roles (or games) you play in relationships, and what roles you demand of others as well. See if you are in love with the person, or with the role he is playing right now. Turn this around for a little while. Try playing different roles. Try being with someone who plays roles you are not accustomed to. Now, become aware of the difference between who you are and the roles you play. Let the roles go and simply be who you are. Who we are is always loveable and beautiful. It’s the roles that get in the way.

3) LETTING HIM COME AND LETTING HIM GO One great obstacle in living a life of love is the tendency to hold on. We grasp and cling to each, preventing the freedom of love from arising on its own. When someone comes into your life (or day) practice letting him come. Welcome the person – whoever he is. Enjoy what it is he brings. When it is time for a person to go away, practice letting him go. Do not turn the person’s leaving into an experience of rejection, loss or abandonment. Realize that his leaving has nothing to do with you. It is simply time for him to go. Do this with yourself as well. Let yourself come and go freely in life, not tying yourself in unnecessary chains. The more we free others and ourselves, the more easily we fall in love.

4) PUTTING YOUR BAGGAGE DOWN Many feel that love is not possible unless all their demands are met. They can be quite amazed to discover that these demands don’t lead to happiness. They just may be obstacles to falling in love. Take a look at what you feel is absolutely necessary in relationships. Now look at it again. Realize this is baggage you are carrying that may be keeping all kinds of people and possibilities away. Not only that – this baggage can be making you fearful and rigid, not open to what is available for you. Let one of these demands subside. At first let it go for just one day and see how it feels to be without it. (Remember you can always take it back again). Now try another day. As we do this many times, we may find that that which we thought was crucial for our lives was really getting in the way. The more we do this the more light and happy we will feel. Not only that, but all kinds of new people, possibilities and situations we never noticed will start coming onto our path. We have made room for them by putting our baggage down.

5) GIVING GIFTS Giving and receiving are the essence of relationships. When we are in love this is never a problem. We naturally give and are happy with whatever is offered in return. To open up to falling in love, it is important to adopt this state of mind – start giving naturally. What gifts do you give others in relationships? Take a few moments and also see what you hope to receive in return. Now find something new you can give to somebody. Give it. Do this everyday. Each day give something else. It does not have to be fancy or expensive, just something that will add to his or her day. Then do this with all kinds of different people. Do it quietly without great fanfare and without expecting something in return. Then do this with yourself as well. Each day take a moment to find out what kind of gift you would like today. (Can be simple – a walk in the park, new lipstick, time with someone you care for.) Now give this to yourself each day. Although this exercise is simple, it is extremely powerful. Doing this daily in your relationship can turn everything around. When you give, remember not to look for anything in return (not even a smile or thank you). Just give to give, no expectations, no demands. By living with this open, generous mind, all kinds of other gifts come to you naturally.

6) MAKING FRIENDS WITH YOURSELF Many say they are lonely, even with a partner at their side. This is simply because they have not yet made friends with themselves. Once they make friends with themselves and are able to be who they are, it is impossible to be lonely anymore. Make friends with yourself. Spend time noticing who you are. Accept all parts of yourself. Stop judging and rejecting what is going on inside. Be still and look within. Pay attention to your breath and just notice what is going on. Let it be. Accept it, and return to the breathing. Understand that breath by breath, underneath the clamor, you are perfect just as you are. Can you choose to be this natural self in relationships? Can you choose to have relationships with those who want and appreciate just what you are?

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